No Resolutions, No Regrets

New Year’s Eve is symbolic of new beginnings and fresh starts. We make resolutions and pledge to ourselves that we are finally going to make a change that will stick. Or maybe we know we won’t stick with it. Many who “fall off the wagon” report they wind up feeling disappointed in themselves, so why bother starting that yucky cycle! 

I get it, when we are overwhelmed by a goal, having a definitive plan or starting point makes change seem more manageable. But what if we were committed to living a life every day that was as close to perfect as we can imagine it? What if we lived with no regrets, therefore never needing to feel like we needed a clean slate? What if we didn’t end one year relieved that the next year could be a “do over”?

Obviously there is no perfect life. But there is acceptance of life as an imperfect masterpiece. When we choose to live each day grounded in ourselves, following our inner guidance, we cultivate a life that we are excited about. If every day you woke up and said “yes” to what brings you joy and “no” to what doesn’t serve you, you would find you are living your life for the right now. And living in the now is the biggest source of peace we can discover.

Living with no regrets is not easy, and certainly takes courage. You must find courage to set and stick to your boundaries with others. But you must also explore a deeper, subtler kind of courage. The kind that asks you to go inward and face yourself. It’s the dedication to shutting off the internal noise and distraction with a conscious openness for discovering the pain and beauty that you have inside. We fear this because we know there is hurt, and we doubt our strength to face it and heal. But when we do, we find serenity. Suddenly we are living the way we are meant to, and each day is lived as if it were our last. 

This year I invite you to throw out your outward resolutions. Instead, commit inward to yourself. Promise to identify your joy and never let a day go by where you aren’t connected to that joy at least once.

In that, you will live.

Wishing you a very happy and abundant New Year!
Wishing you a very happy and abundant New Year!

With gratitude,